A Journey Towards Connection Like all kids, I had little control of my environment. That would be okay if our environments were safe and supportive – but they rarely are. So, I attempted to control …
The Power of Pattern Interruption
What do we strive for? If you are anything like me, you crave consistency and efficiency. We all want life to be easier, and we search for the most effective way to do things. But what happens when …
Regrets to Success
Just as fear can freeze us, so can shame. The shame from regret will freeze us. Regrets can keep us stuck in the past just like unfelt fear and grief. We are very familiar with sadness as one of …
Co-regulation – Your Secret to Connection
I grew up aspiring to do things myself – isn’t that what men do? Along with not feeling and certainly not showing my emotions, I worked at being self-reliant. To ask for help was showing weakness. …
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Where Are You on the Alexithymia Scale?
The first time I read about alexithymia -- difficulty in experiencing, expressing, and describing emotional responses -- I laughed. Now they have a diagnosis for being a normal man. Then I thought …
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What Is at Risk?
When I started the Sandpoint Men’s group in 2005, I remember sitting in my living room asking a man, “What is at risk?” That question came from asking myself to dive into my fear of acting. I would …