What do we strive for? If you are anything like me, you crave consistency and efficiency. We all want life to be easier, and we search for the most effective way to do things. But what happens when these patterns become so automatic that they start running us?
Our patterns are formed from how we train ourselves to deal with stress and trauma, and they can be limiting and disconnecting. But through the work of EVRYMAN, we can interrupt these patterns and reconnect with ourselves and others.
It starts with that first act of pattern interruption. It may take only one interruption, or it may take many disruptions to break an old habit or addiction. But each time we break a pattern, the next one becomes easier to break.
What pattern do you have that needs interruption? What is one thing you can do to break that pattern? The beauty of a men’s group is that you have a community of men that want to help you. They can offer feedback, hold you accountable, and honor you when you stay true to your course.
So take what was once unconscious and make it conscious. Feel what the disconnect was preventing you from feeling, and as you feel it, take a new action. Be willing to be confused and uncomfortable, because the feeling and mindful action will release you from the pattern that is running you.
Remember, awareness is a double-edged sword. New awareness brings new experiences and freedom, but it also makes you conscious of old behaviors of which you were unaware. But with the help of a men’s group, you can interrupt those patterns and live a more connected and fulfilling life.