We Hunger for Connection
Men generally come to me because their primary relationships are not where they want them to be. Their career success is not matched at home. How can you expect it to be when we have rarely seen successful relationships?
Despite what may feel like a failure, we long for our vision of a relationship where being with our partner gives us energy. Using the principles and skills developed for EVRYMAN and now MELD coaching, and through training thousands of men over two decades, we see men use their physiology to guide themselves to connect to their own experiences and to others.
The Evolution of MELD Coaching
I had the good fortune to train with and often teach with leaders in the fields of somatic and relationship therapies back in the late 1970s and 1980s. Ron Kurtz and Peter Levine, Ph.D., taught me how to use body awareness as a powerful yet gentle way to produce significant change. Over the past five years, I have been lucky to work with Sue Johnson, Ph.D., and Ester Perel, two masters in relationship therapy.
Melding what these masters taught me with tens of thousands of hours training and working 1:1 with clients, I discovered how to expedite sustainable change for men. This led to training coaches and therapists in basic and postgraduate MELD Method skills and MELD Coaching.
The Evolution of a New Model
Melding research and the wisdom of others discovered by 10,000 hours of participation in men’s groups led me to write Grow Up, A Man’s Guide to Emotional Masculine Intelligence. The book lays out the nine phases of our development. Because of stress, trauma, lack of connection, or our cultural upbringing, we did not fully experience these phases. The gaps become repetitious traps. Filling the gaps with the needed experiences can quickly enable you to succeed where you have been failing.
Relational Executive Coaching in Business
Within the vast panorama of leadership, imagine it as both a science marked by reliable rules and an art, defined by the subtle dance of relationships. This is the stage on which I place MELD Relational Executive Coaching. Drawing from a wellspring of experience and unique training, I’ve guided senior managers from industry behemoths such as IBM and Google and ambitious members of the Entrepreneur’s Organization (EO).
This approach, relational leadership, has been my cornerstone, a concept often overlooked in the conventional corridors of executive coaching. I saw something missing while studying multiple coaching, therapy, and leadership approaches. The best analysis or plan will not succeed if the team members are disconnected. We’ve demonstrated how this unique approach fosters authentic and effective leadership. By emphasizing vulnerability, authenticity, and presence, I help transform clients from mere commanders into lighthouses, illuminating the way for their teams.
Consider leading a team where trust isn’t a luxury, but the very foundation, where every individual feels seen, heard, and validated. This leadership style cultivates a culture of mutual respect, compassion, and acceptance, providing fertile ground for innovation and commitment. As a result, the managers under my coaching have seen a significant boost in their leadership acumen and their teams’ performance, leading to comprehensive organizational growth. Relational Executive Coaching transcends beyond professional boundaries. It’s about transforming you not just into a more effective leader, but a better human, deeply connected, compassionate, and influential. This is your chance to inspire, to lead with compassion, and to genuinely make a difference.
First and foremost, I cannot begin to express how deeply I appreciate the guidance and support you’ve offered me over the past months. With your help, I’ve navigated both personal and work-related challenges in ways I couldn’t have imagined before. Your influence has been invaluable in shaping my journey toward self-awareness and emotional intelligence.
I’ve noticed a palpable change in my ability to identify and understand my emotions. More importantly, expressing them—whether in a personal or professional setting—no longer feels as daunting as it once did. This growth, I believe, is a testament to our time together and the techniques you’ve introduced me to.
Adam Heitzman Managing Partner – HigherVisibility
A Life Worth Living
There is no magic pill. Removing your limitations and using emotions to connect shifts your foundation. We realize that running around addressing the latest symptom does not work. It is not working harder – it is working with new plans and tools.
At the end of the day, do you feel alone? Find your joy, passion, and hope again. Get unstuck to begin living a life of substance.
Let’s Get to Work
You have accomplished a lot by stretching yourself. Now you are up against something you cannot get through on your own. Your smarts and hard work are not giving you all that you want. It’s not you; it’s the tools others gave you.
I enjoy seeing men get more than they want and then growing their success on their own. If you feel MELD Coaching may help you, fill out this short questionnaire below via the free consultation button. I hope to be talking with you soon.
A Personal Intensive
For the adventurous man — or maybe for the man who does not want to wait – we offer the Body of Work personal Intensive.
It feels risky to push the button.
Beyond knowing others were helped, it still takes courage to pursue getting out of what’s not working for a better place.
The men I work with are regular guys who often try other methods but are not where they want to be. They range from plumbers to CEOs. We all need help developing skills no one taught us.
Read about my approach to change.
Fill out a brief questionnaire to schedule a free consultation. I look forward to connecting with you.