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A Journey Towards Connection Like all kids, I had little control of my environment. That would be okay if our environments were safe and supportive – but they rarely are. So, I attempted to control what little I could. This is a common pattern. We often build walls of control around us in our quest…
The first time I read about alexithymia — difficulty in experiencing, expressing, and describing emotional responses — I laughed. Now they have a diagnosis for being a normal man. Then I thought about how true that diagnosis would be for me. If you know me, you know that I started my journey shut down in…
When I started the Sandpoint Men’s group in 2005, I remember sitting in my living room asking a man, “What is at risk?” That question came from asking myself to dive into my fear of acting. I would go into the freeze response (being hyped up but not acting). I would be that deer in…
I tried to be a good student. I tried to remember the order of things and then execute that order – yet something would always go wrong. I remember going to catechism, the Catholic religious training, and stressing out because I could not remember all the steps of First Communion. If you were not brought…
In the mid-1990s, my business Paul and I were building the Scottsdale Institute for Health and Medicine in Arizona. John Rattenbury, the lead teacher at Taliesin West, Frank Lloyd Wright’s school in Scottdale, was our architect for the project. I remember John explaining to me how acoustic resonance works. Wright designed the beautiful Gammage Theater at ASU with a large…
Many years ago, we are talking decades; I had a teacher explain metaphors to me. This teacher used the difference between the War for Independence, which I was interested in, and the Civil War, which my father studied. It made perfect sense to me. I cherished my independence, and my father grew up in a…
