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Many years ago, we are talking decades; I had a teacher explain metaphors to me. This teacher used the difference between the War for Independence, which I was interested in, and the Civil War, which my father studied. It made perfect sense to me. I cherished my independence, and my father grew up in a…
Unplug from porn by unplugging from what drives porn. Many men find their way to work to one of our groups or trainings and often to my coaching because of their history of porn. Because it’s so available and free – we have a significant problem. 25%…
Post: Brad Pitt and Men’s Groups We are told that men are emotionally closed down. That they cannot feel or express emotions. As a man who has experienced pain and witnessed thousands of other men in pain, I believe we are much like the fellow who the surgeon believes is entirely under anesthesia but is…
We are taught that learning comes from the act of being taught. We are trained to learn to sit in a chair that is in a row of chairs, writing down what the teacher tells us. Be dyslexic; I was not good at that. Were you? We don’t only learn facts; we learn a way…
When was the last time you failed? My dyslexia teaches me every day that failure is inevitable. It also teaches me to be humble — it’s hard to be arrogant when you are making mistakes all the time. Maybe more than anything, it teaches me forgiveness. As men, we learn to organize against failing. Some…
You don’t need to be an experience men’s group participant to appreciate the opportunity that challenge brings men. All you need to look at how to break out of your restraints is to be a man with a life that is not delivering what you want. Like many of us, I was raised to be…
