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I remember when the reality of my childhood started to hit me over the head. I was sitting in a somatic psychotherapy training with Ron Kurtz listening to others speak about how their childhood impacted them. I naively assumed every family was like mine. When I heard some were fun, others violent, I began to…
Unplug from porn by unplugging from what drives porn. Many men find their way to work to one of our groups or trainings and often to my coaching because of their history of porn. Because it’s so available and free – we have a significant problem. 25%…
This post I wrote first appeared About Me. Reconsidering Manhood Trying to be a 20-year-old doesn’t work at 60. Getting women to help us with our emotions – like we did when we were younger, starting with our mother – is no longer an option. And our friends? Well, they’re no better off than we…
I remember, as a young teenager, hanging out with my friends and talking about what we would do with a particular young teenage girl. We had no idea what we were talking about, but that was irrelevant. We were bonding, bragging and mostly B-S-ing. The more graphic you could be, the better. It was all…
It’s hard to be a boy these days. A boy today goes to schools run mostly by women, who are under intense pressure to get test scores up. His recess is reduced or taken away because there is so much to learn. His need to move, express, and rough house—perfectly natural activities for a young…
This is a guest post form Thomas Golden. A man’s emotional pain is often invisible. You simply can’t see it. Most people assume that since it is not easy to spot that it must not exist. Worse yet, all too often the assumption is that there is something wrong with men since they don’t seem…
