I’m often asked, what is a good men’s group? My standard answer is that it’s not therapy, its men learning what we didn’t get to learn growing up. All that is true, but it doesn’t explain what occurs during the meetings. Nor does it explain how, in six months, a man’s life can be transformed [...]

Over the years, we’ve had many men join our groups at the suggestion of their therapist. That’s right: a therapist suggested their patient check out a men’s group rather than enter therapy. That’s because more and more therapists are realizing men aren’t bad or broken. Being a man is not a pathological problem. Men don’t [...]

Now that we investigated the upside and downside of Bad Boys for men and women, let’s extract what works from this model of the masculine that fulfills what both men and women need. I’ve written how Manhood 2.0 is the evolving model of what it is to be a man today. This new man has [...]

This is third part of a four-part article exploring the traps and the power of Bad Boys for both men and women. From working with women and having them as friends and partners, I’ve learned that they realize the price of being with a Bad Boy. A Bad Boy can be a lot of fun [...]

This is second part of a four-part article exploring the traps and the power of Bad Boys for both men and women. What’s in a Bad Boy – the upside of being bad A Bad Boy’s outward struggle with men and women mimics his inward struggle. His emotional ADHD makes it difficult to settle down [...]

Today President Obama speaks in Chicago about gun violence because the Black Youth Project generated over 45,000 signatures on their petition to have the president come to Chicago. Having our President speak about gun violence’s largest set of perpetrators and victims is huge. Black boys are traditionally the last to receive political attention. Now that [...]

  You know that guy who walks into a room as if he could care less? We all want to be that guy. Assuming you’re not that guy, I’ll teach you how you can that confident without the downside of the typical Bad Boy. This is a four-part article exploring the traps and the power [...]

You know that person who always has something nice to say, even when you told him how you just had the worst day of your life? You spilled out your guts only to receive back some New Age or motivational affirmation about how good always comes from bad. If you are like me, rather than [...]