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Growing up, I tried to get what I wanted by attempting to develop an effective persona. Eventually, I gave up. I figured I couldn’t make any more of a fool of myself if I just allowed myself to be myself. I had to unlearn my act. That was harder than I thought. When a situation…
What was your pain or struggle as a kid? Were you picked on by bullies? Were you the kid who was beaten by his alcoholic father? Or did you have a large family, and no personal space or attention? We all had stress or trauma as a kid. Even if you judge your childhood as…
“Women dwell on their disappointments. …Whereas men dwell on their failures.” From Leigh Pretnar Cousins, MS in the PsychCentral post Ms. Cousins’ contention is that women don’t get the fact that, “Men are constantly in competition with each other, embroiled in a life-long contest that no man can ever ‘win’ in any permanent way.” I…
So, which gets you more, comfort or risk? I say risk. Comfort is what we seek, but it’s risk that delivers it. Think about it, what brought you the biggest change and pleasure in your life? Was it sitting on your ass? Or was it when life kicked you in the ass? Risk adverse As…
The upside and downside of loss When is the last time you experienced loss? Was it a relationship? I know over the decades I felt several times the grief from a relationship ending. It is tough. You feel like you will never be better. You might not be sure you want to be better. In…
Are you in pain right now? If so, is it the obvious pain of a backache or is it the subtle, constant pain of worry? Have you grown to accept this pain? What will it take to get you off your ass to eliminate that pain? You aren’t stupid, so why is the pain still…
