This TED video nails what is happening to boys and men. Psychologist Philip Zimbardo asks, “Why are boys struggling?” His stats (lower graduation rates, greater worries about intimacy and relationships) are impressive. Before we can change this we need to know the problem exist. There is no better description of this problem then Philip Zimbardo’s [...]

Your conscious and unconscious minds may act like adversaries, attempting to pull you in two directions. They are meant to work together to enrich your life. Proving that you are more than your thoughts David Brooks, past senior editor at The Weekly Standard, contributing editor at Newsweek and the Atlantic Monthly, now New York Times [...]

For last year the crew of The Man’s Guide to Love have traveled the country asking men about their feelings, experiences and advice about love. CNN explains how we believe men don’t want to speak about love. Yet in these videos you see men opening up often with their love next to them. These short [...]

Part one Traditionally, women have reported suffering from depression more than men have. But in this  economic situation, that’s changing. An article in PsychCentral warns therapists to prepare to treat more men for depression. Prozac Nation NOTE: Before you decide that I am going to tell you all anti-depressants are bad, and that no one [...]

What do you want to change? What keeps tripping you up? After 35 years of study, changing myself and teaching it to others, I have come to learn a few things about change – don’t be impressed. I had a lot to accept and change. First the obvious, change doesn’t stop. But you knew that. [...]

Guys, we think we have the goals thing nailed, right? We have been out making it happen for thousands of years. Well, it seems women have learned a few things staying home taking care of the family. According to an article in the Philadelphia Inquirer an international survey of 4,690 people by Leadership IQ, a [...]

Macho is dead—but so is the nice guy. Our new masculinity is something between the two: a man who can be emotionally demonstrative, and still stand strong as a man. It’s a man who can cherish his woman and say no to her. It’s a man who adores his woman, and also has a life [...]

My list was just a mental one until I read an email from Daniel Pink about his “don’t do list” (he credits Tom Peter for his inspiration). A No List From my training in Ericksonian Hypnosis, I learned that our unconscious mind doesn’t hear negative commands–it doesn’t hear “don’t”. If you tell someone not to [...]