Just as fear can freeze us, so can shame. The shame from regret will freeze us. Regrets can keep us stuck in the past just like unfelt fear and grief. We are very familiar with sadness as one of …
What Is at Risk?
When I started the Sandpoint Men’s group in 2005, I remember sitting in my living room asking a man, “What is at risk?” That question came from asking myself to dive into my fear of acting. I would …
The Arc of Change Part 3
In the previous post, we discussed transitions, the second of three stages of change (separation was the first). Here we will move into the third stage: reintegration (a process of integrating someone …
The Arc of Change Part 2
In the previous post, we discussed separation, the first of three stages of change. Here we will move into the second stage, transition, or as others call it, …
Projection — How to Transform Them
Twenty-five years ago, getting pissed off sitting in a Sweat Lodge next to a man who could not sit still, I thought, “WTF, can’t this man just relax?”. It took everything I had not to say something – …
Discovering Your Desires
Luke Burgis speaks about how so much of what we want is not what we want. He dove into how we are trained to want what others want on an interview we did with him for an EVRYMAN Global Call. His new …