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Stop pushing harder. Start using the right tool. Over the years, I’ve had too many men come to me frustrated, confused, or even ashamed. They’ve been doing “the work”—they’ve shown up to men’s groups, tried to be vulnerable, and put in the effort. But despite all that, something still isn’t clicking. The change they want…
In the previous post, we discussed separation, the first of three stages of change. Here we will move into the second stage, transition, or as others call it, liminality[i]. As you let go of one connection or situation, there is a moment you are not holding on to anything, or it feels no one has a hold…
What is the toughest, most macho place to work? How about an oil rig? When Shell Oil decided to build the largest oil rig in history, to drill deeper than any other rig, they trained their men dig deep. For those men, digging deep meant digging into their emotions. This NPR report tells the story…
I once had a client who struggled in every relationship he had. Falling in love was easy — maybe too easy. John would open himself up to his new love, he would give her everything she wanted, but inevitably the romance would wear off, and the deeper relationships issues would show up. John would start…
What’s missing in your life? Is it the depth of friendship you had when you were younger? Is it true intimacy in your relationship? Are you missing purpose or passion in your life? As men we work hard to achieve our goals. Yet we will often feel there should be more to life. We…
Should an employee be required to attend a ‘growth development training’? A lawyer is suing his boss for supposedly requiring him to attend the New Warrior Training put on by the Mankind Project. Image via Wikipedia I say no. When I did corporate trainings, I only wanted people there who wanted to be there. But…
