Growing up Catholic, I was taught that I was damned before I started. With Original Sin, all I had to do was be born to have committed a sin. The lay teachers and the nuns used anxiety and guilt as the motivator not to commit any more sins. After setting myself free from the double…
You may know how I’m a huge champion of brotherhood, how as men we need more than male friends. I get it with my men’s groups. My good friend Mike Hrostoski’s is doing it with his The School for Men. Because I believe in men shortening their path to success with the help of other…
It is more important to know what sort of person has a disease than to know what sort of disease a person has. Hippocrates Three decades as a Rolfer taught me that the “presenting symptom” is never the problem. If the problem is chronic, then the cause(s) is always another place in the body. To…
After years of doing all form of work including men’s work and men’s groups I still couldn’t find a book that took all the aspects of what is available today and delivered it to men in a way that worked. Don’t get me wrong, there are some good books out there for men. I wanted…
Over the years, we’ve had many men join our groups at the suggestion of their therapist. That’s right: a therapist suggested their patient check out a men’s group rather than enter therapy. That’s because more and more therapists are realizing men aren’t bad or broken. Being a man is not a pathological problem. Men don’t…
What’s missing in your life? Is it the depth of friendship you had when you were younger? Is it true intimacy in your relationship? Are you missing purpose or passion in your life? As men we work hard to achieve our goals. Yet we will often feel there should be more to life. We…
