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When I started the Sandpoint Men’s group in 2005, I remember sitting in my living room asking a man, “What is at risk?” That question came from asking myself to dive into my fear of acting. I would go into the freeze response (being hyped up but not acting). I would be that deer in…
In the previous post, we discussed transitions, the second of three stages of change (separation was the first). Here we will move into the third stage: reintegration (a process of integrating someone back into society). Once you have hit bottom, once you have survived your transition, you enter a process of integration, first with yourself…
In the previous post, we discussed separation, the first of three stages of change. Here we will move into the second stage, transition, or as others call it, liminality[i]. As you let go of one connection or situation, there is a moment you are not holding on to anything, or it feels no one has a hold…
What do we all want – and resist? Change. We want to leave what is not working. Maybe it did work, but we reached a point where it is no longer working. It could be the desire to leave home, a relationship, or a job. The deeper question is, what are we leaving beyond the…
I grew up telling myself that my feelings were not important — that no one cared how I felt. Taught that even thinking a bad thought was a sin, I believed that my hell was my fault. If it was going to change, I had to figure it out. Admittedly, I chose to be a…
Relationships are without a doubt one of the biggest challenges men face. Everyday men come to EVRYMAN to develop skills they can bring to their primary romantic relationship. And for good reason, it’s often a very high-stakes field, yet one where we receive little to no guidance, support, or training. You would never join a…
