Relationships don’t need to be hard. It’s not therapy, it’s not reading a new book or taking the latest course out on relationships. It’s joining a micro.
We have a primordial need to have a tribe. With a men’s group or women’s groups – your mico-community, you have a resource that nourishes you so that your primary relationships flourishes.
I wrote this post for RoleReboot on how having a group can make a world of difference for you and your partner.
When men have a venue where they aren’t just hanging out, but opening up and sharing emotionally, in a masculine way, men go home nourished. Both the men and their partners tell me how their once emotionally closed-down demeanors evolve into open and giving ones. Rather than retreating to a video game, TV, the Internet, or a beer, they are engaging with their families. It’s not just that these men are learning how to be different from other men. It’s that they have a place to be a man. They are learning what was never taught to them: masculine emotional intelligence.