Hanna Rosin, the author of the Atlantic Magazine article, The End of Men, speaks articulately in her TED talk about what we all are feeling – the shift in our roles as men and women. As she points out, this shift does not originate in the personal or political. It is economic.
The ‘white men’ culture is what is dying a slow death. As a man, I am happy to see it die. In my men’s groups I see the effect of this shift on men and their families. It is tough. As men, we have had more privilege than we realized or often deserved. Some of us used it for our own gains; many of us did the best we could to provide for and protect our families. We are not able to do that in the same way we have in the past.
The new gains for women and society are countered with the grief from the loss of our past and fear from men for what is next. It is not a he or she, but an us. We are all redefining the new us and we don’t have it down yet. It is stressful for all of us.