iVillage, the site for women had a man list his Top 10 Things Men Love about Women.
Ask any man, and he will quickly give you his list of loves. There is the obvious one such as mentioned in the iVillage post, she gives us the look. Then there are the less obvious ones, such as how she softens and surrenders to your masculinity.
As Marcus Buckingham champions, focus on what works. Focus on the strengths. As men we need to focus on what works, what we like about women – then tell them. One of the few things I remember from my psychology of learning class in college was that positive reinforcement works better than negative reinforcement.
Tell your woman what you like about her. Tell her how you enjoy the ways she pleases you. It’s amazing what a little compliment does. Hey, I’m slow as any guy. It was women that taught me this valuable skill.
Have it be sincere and specific. “I love the way you walk in those red heels. You’re a prancing lioness, proud and strong. I feel scared and turned on each time I hear that heel hit the hard floor. I don’t know if I should run or just give up the fight.”
When you allow yourself to feel your response to a woman, than express it… she’ll get it. Let it land. Let her respond. It might take a second for it sink into her – that’s good.
There is a chance she might not like it. However, there’s a greater chance she will melt and wait for the next compliment. Intimacy starts with communication. Communication starts with awareness. By you being aware and sharing that awareness, she’s being invited to follow you into the place of trust and vulnerability.
Single or not
Communicating to women in this way will get you laid when it is not done as a rehearsed technique but as an impromptu response to the woman. Look into her eyes as if you’re looking into a deep well. Let your words be pebbles that ripple through her.
If you’re in a relationship, you will get laid. You will also deepen your relationship.
If you have a partner, create your own list of the top 10 things you love about her. Once a day, pick one and tell her it. She what happens after 10 days, then let us know.
If you’re not in a relationship, tell another woman – maybe even a stranger – what you notice about her that you like. Make someone’s day.
The more you practice noticing what you like and speak it, the more you’ll attract women. Women are amazing at their abilities to sense where a man is coming from, usually more than we are.
Try it right now. What happened?