Why can existing be so hard? Why does it feel like you are fighting the inertia of the entire universe to have the life you want?
I doubt you are using your innate capacity to fully live. In previous posts, I’ve written about the Evolutionary Change™ or Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey as being an unconscious movement to evolve.
If the Evolutionary Change™ is your evolutional process and the river you travel to your new self – what is the power that will propel your down the river? Beyond the desire for this journey, you have the means to facilitate the needed change. If you are to take this journey, and you are – you need help traveling it. Help comes in three forms as you change and grow. Knowing how to use these instinctual processes will greatly improve your journey.
The Trinity – three ways to achieve graceful and powerful change:
- Therapy to healing
- Being to doing
- Magic to miracles
Over the years these three aspects of development consistently show up in those who have a rich life. I suspect these people instinctually tapped into their deep power. You can do it intentionally by understanding what these three assets are and how to utilize them.
Therapy to healing
These aspects are not necessarily stages, but if they were, this would be the first for some. Here, the limitations that prevent life and movement are removed. This is particularly true if the stress or trauma occurred during childhood and we were unable to experience and release it so the event becomes lodged in our body/mind. Our world tells us that either what occurred didn’t occur or we can’t speak about it in an honest way – so we distort our worldview and ourselves to fit the world that exists. Over time, we grow to consciously and unconsciously accept this new worldview.
Therapy, as a change agent, becomes the catalyst for this change. Be it psychotherapy or body therapy, or even shamanic work when the stress is released and understood for what it was, you are free to begin to experience life fully. Life stops being about survival. You stop being at the effect of stress and trauma, for example you move beyond the Drama Triangle which I wrote about in previous posts.
Therapy is the part of the trinity that deals with fixing. It removes the limiting past, beliefs, pain,
tension and toxins. It gets the crap out of you and your life. Therapy sets up your body/mind to do what it wants to do – heal. Healing can’t occur in a state of survival. Stress, even if it is from the past, is a form of survival. To the extent you have stress in you; you are limiting your mind and body to heal.
Examples of therapies
Therapy can also include holistic therapies such as acupuncture, herbology or homeopathy. Standard allopathic medicine doesn’t foster healing, but it is great at dealing with emergencies. Support groups when focused not on a problem, but towards sponsoring change, can get you out of your past. So can trainings that not only teach a new way of being, but also activate your deeper instincts for change.
As Americans, we like to fix things including ourselves. This is great until it becomes a distraction or obsession. My warning here is don’t use these processes to develop a better coping mechanism. I see people learn a better way to be, but they still aren’t being themselves. They may overtly be functioning better. They could be getting in less trouble. They aren’t happier.
It’s not why
Believing you need to understand the why to heal is a misnomer. True understanding comes from the wisdom of experience, not from someone else telling you to be different. In other words, be less concerned about why and more focused on the how of change.
Agents of change
Your body and its cycles have its own agents of change. For women, puberty and menopause are two examples of how all parts of a woman are forced to change as she passes through her rites of passage into another stage of life.
All these agents of change will produce chaos. Releasing, completing and healing will shake up the past; it is their purpose. The fixing nature of therapy brings you back to a neutral place, a place more available for the second element being to doing which I will discuss in the next post.
What are your agents of change that you use to move your life forward?