Resources for the Remarkable Man

TEDx Talk: What 10,000 Years of Progress Has Cost Men

Tools and plans for every man to build his OWN life

What do guys like?

We like tools and toys. Here in North Idaho, many men have a shop with not just their tools, but their sports equipment, tractor, 4-wheeler, snow-mobile, etc. Women might be suckers for buying that new pair of shoes; men are suckers for buying that new set of clubs or power tool. We tell ourselves that the latest and greatest is worth the investment because it will improve our game or help us make better turns on the slopes.

I’m not going to give you new tools, equipment or toys. But I will give you some of the best ways to free yourself so you can win. So you can be Remarkable.

It’s not therapy

There is nothing that will get a man running for the door faster than for someone to suggest he should go to therapy. Many of us see therapy as our kryptonite: it will weaken us; we will no longer be a man.

This is not all paranoia.

When you step back to look at therapy, you see a profession dominated by women, in a cultural milieu of feminine emotionality.

Over the last 150 years or so, men became less and less connected to our families as we moved from the farm to the factory to the office. Children lost a masculine presence. Women did what they had to do – they stepped up. They stepped in to fill the gap of the father not being there to co-raise the children. What it meant to be emotional was taught more and more by women. The norm became skewed towards the feminine.

Because this is the water we all swim in, we don’t realize that the masculine perspective of emotionality is missing. Being a macho man or a new age sensitive man is not being emotional in the essence of what it means to be a man.

So when a man is told he needs therapy, he feels, on a primordial level, that the remaining sliver of masculine emotionality will be squeezed out of him. It’s not that men don’t care. We do! We just know that learning to be more emotional in a feminine manner is not the answer for us or our partner.

Do it like a man

Stop trying to be a better man through learning what is not you. Stop putting on clothes that aren’t yours.

Start discovering what was never modeled or taught to you… or maybe never encouraged or allowed. Learn from other men how real men are emotional.

And here’s the kicker: when you really step into living an as emotionally healthy man, women will actually appreciate you more and be more attracted to you. In spite of what they are told, women find that they would rather have a man who is emotional in a masculine way than some masculine version of themselves. There needs to be a distinct difference in how each sex is emotional so there is polarity and attraction.

Use what I present to return to your Masculine Emotional Intelligence. Through this site, the resources I offer and our Free to Win site, begin building the life you want.

It can be simple, quick and fun to walk away from a model that doesn’t serve either sex. Step into a model that has its roots in the tribes of our ancestors. The essence of that way of being is still in you. It’s in every man’s genome.

The Mentoring Men Program

Often as men, we want the focus that comes from individual mentoring. We are now offering few spots in our Mentoring Men Program.

This program is not the usual men’s coaching program. It comes from the same roots our Emotional Superman Course comes from. It’s a system designed to give a man the tools he never had in the most efficient and sustainable way possible.

Discover more about what is possible, click here.

The book: Grow Up: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence

The book that no boy or man ever was given.

The book I wanted but didn’t have… so I created it.

The meta list

In writing Grow Up: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence I compiled a list of resources (websites) for men to create that life.. This list is always growing. Give me your suggestions to share with other men.