Using the weapons of mass destruction… for love
As you master the natural communication modalities, you can also use all the ones we have available to overload her with pleasure and desire.
- Texting – it’s not just for politicians or professional athletes to use in crude ways. Start an ongoing tease through your texting. Do be obvious. Focus on the indirect comments or the metaphors. Think of it more as short lines of an ongoing poem.
Send her a text when she least expects it. When you are next to her, when you’re dropping the kids off at practice, before you go to bed… you get it. Be creative.
As you do it more, you will get better at it and enjoy even more. This one action can transform your relationship.
- Post a public note to her on Facebook or Twitter. When a man publicly declares his love for his woman, and her friends see it, it’s like she “won that round.” Even women who don’t want to be will admit that they’re a little competitive about who has the best man. (Again, it’s biological. Women competed for the best providers.) Just like sending flowers to her AT WORK is a huge aphrodisiac for a women, so is a public declaration of how much you love or appreciate her. (NOTE: This is NOT the place to get racy or suggestive. Just loving and appreciative.)
- Leave notes – when and where she doesn’t expect it. Put one in her purse, in her underwear drawer; in the glove compartment of her car… again, have fun with it.
- Send her a letter – to her work or even to your address.
- Phone sex – is an art that develops out of mastering using the power of hypnotic induction. As with these other behaviors, start slow, be indirect and metaphorical. Use a preexisting story (situation) or invent one as you go.
The intent in the beginning is to relax her. It doesn’t have to make perfect sense, remember you are dealing with the unconscious mind. As you go deeper into your relaxed trance, so will she. Then you start bringing indirect suggestions such as, “as you drift down the river watching the stars you begin to feel a delicate breeze caressing your body. You let the breeze envelop you with its warmth allowing you to sense your body warming up….” With a little fun practice you will be amazed how powerful this can be.
- Be with her – by bringing all this together. One of the biggest turn-ons that we stop doing is being together. In all the ways you can, be present with her. Listen to her stories and feelings. Feel for what’s underneath what she’s saying, and ask questions from that place.
The intent of all these approaches is to deepen your connection and communication, and thereby your intimacy. Don’t multitask when are with her. Stay focused on her. I know this can be hard, but if you are able to do it for 30 minutes a day, you will see results that will more than pay for the extra focus it took in the beginning.
So, to get more is not about giving more, as much as how you give it. Realize for both of you it might be a learning curve. At first, her responses might not what you expected or wanted. But as you get into it, so will she.Then she’ll “come under your spell.” Is this manipulation? Yes. But you are manipulating her to give her what she wants.
When she feels full, she will want to give to you. When you give from a place of exhaustion or depletion, it is effort and sacrifice. When you give from a place of joy and abundance, giving is a pleasure. You are manning up; giving before you get. This is not much different than when you first asked her out without knowing if she would say yes. Both acts tell her she is valuable. Again, you knowing that is not the same as her feeling it. Get her to feel it!
Please let me know how this works for you. And women, please give me and the rest of us men feedback on what you want.
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