Being a man is not a pathology
For years it hasn’t been cool to be a real man. Well, it’s cool to be a man once again – this time it’s being your own man. Being emotional, vulnerable, caring is now being defined in masculine terms for men.
Break free of the old paradigm that says you’re either some rigid, unhappy, suppressed man or a weak, overly-sensitive and ineffective man. For years we’ve been trapped in the double-bind of either being tough or weak.
This dualistic model never served us as men.
Who benefits from you being a rigid robot or a weak boy? It’s not you. I say it’s those who want us to serve them – without proper compensation.
All double-binds are traps. You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t. We’ve bounced between two limiting choices.
The only way out of a double-bind is not to be in it. Who says this dualistic model of masculinity is the only model?
You aren’t bad, broken or sick. In fact, you are very healthy. Remember the movie The Matrix? Remember Neo waking up? Well, you and I and every other man coming out of this trance of compliance is no different than Neo in the Matrix being unplugged
You are not doomed to living a life of quiet desperation. Stand up. Walk away from what is not serving you or your family. Use this blog and the community of men and women associated with it as your cohorts in your rebellion against the trap of being a man. Take back your own authority of what it is to be a man.
Refuse obedience to an oppressive model of masculinity. Join us in building a smart life. It’s your birthright to be emotionally intelligent as a man.