If it’s going to be work to make a change, you want it to last. How you do get the most out of your efforts?
I suggest going deep-beyond alleviating the immediate symptoms that you want to change-to maximize your efforts. Go for what is causing the repeating problems.
We aren’t trained to use a change processes as a deep healing or learning. We’ve been trained to get it done. How do you go deep? Try slowing down and feeling what is happening in your body and with your emotions. Let them guide you to a deeper knowing.
If you’re like the rest of us, your default is to go to your head to understand and solve the problem; guys are great at this. View it as an opportunity to go beyond understanding to discover what the change is really presenting. A problem is often a portal to a new experience and deep change. One question to ask is, is the problem a metaphor for your life? For example, if you run out of gas-ask yourself, Where in my life am I running out of gas? Some would say Spirit speaks to us through these experiences. Others would say our unconscious mind talks through metaphors.
You want to get a sense of the opportunity the situation presents. What is opening up for change?
How Do You Change on a Core Level?
Now that you have a bigger frame for your circumstance, you can go beyond connecting the dots. To create deep and sustainable change, you need to release the glue that holds the individual problems together.
Your conscious mind and your ego will often distract you from seeing the big picture. These parts of you have spent a lot of time and energy protecting you from a world it perceives as bad. They took on the job of keeping out what you can’t handle.
For the deep change, you will need to step beyond your protectors to the hidden parts. In the shadows of your unconscious is the buried treasure of change. In future posts, I will lay out a simple process to travel this adventure to deep change. This process will help you un-glue the stuck parts that hold you back from creating the life you want.
Tell us how you get your change to last.
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