About You… building the life YOU want
Through stories, research, personal and professional experience, and how-to guides, I hope to give you what you need to be the man you dream of being. This blog is about serving men, and the women who love men. Supporting you with what you need, to create the life you want, is my goal.
Men are living in the duality of being macho OR sensitive. It doesn’t have to be either/or. You can have it both ways—you can have it all—by entering into the new place of relaxed power. We are no longer just hard-ass men; nor are we men trying to be emotionally real by modeling women. We are teaching each other that a man can be strong and open simultaneously. We are teaching each other how to succeed as Remarkable Men.
From the men I’ve had the privilege to work with, I’ve learned something vital: more than anything, what holds us back from being Remarkable is how we matured as men.
We didn’t learn what we needed because, first, it wasn’t taught to us or modeled for us.
Even if it was, we were often too busy just surviving to embody effective masculinity.
If I can learn and change, so can you. I am here to show you the simple ways to do it, and support you in doing it. I want to give you the support I often didn’t have. I won’t lie; I’m getting something out of this, too! Helping you get what I didn’t get helps fill a void in me. So, do me a favor–let me help you build the life you want!
To better serve men and their groups, we created EVRYMAN.
Over the years of sitting in men’s groups, then leading trainings, we discovered that when men develop the skills of authentic connection, their lives become richer. Rather than surviving what life brings you, you have a crew who stands with you and you with them.
In supporting men, we are supporting the therapists and coaches who support men. We do that through training the men in our groups and trainings that are these professionals. We do it in a co-ed setting though exclusive programs for therapists and coaches. With 57% of men embarrassed to seek help, our events and groups encourage men to get help from their peers.
Evryman is Crossfit for your Emotions. The New York Times
Men’s Emotional Intelligence is not an oxymoron.
Since we left our tribes 10,000 years ago, men have been in the home, around their children, less and less. Most men were working the farm with their sons by their sides for thousands of years. Then 200 years ago, many men left the farm for the factory; 30 years ago we left the factory for the computer.
With men gone more, there was less male emotional input in raising kids. Men received their emotional education from women. Women did what they had to do; they did the best they could. But both men and women began to assume a man felt and expressed emotions in the same way as women. Yes, there are similarities. But there are critical differences.
A man expressing his emotions in this culturally-skewed manner can be as ineffective as a man avoiding expressing his emotions at all. As a man you aren’t bad, broken or doomed. You can unlearn what doesn’t serve you. Discover a new model of what it is to be a man; a model of Masculine Emotional Intelligence.
A little about me
I started working with men and men’s groups purely for selfish reasons. After twenty years of working on healing my Asperger’s Syndrome, dyslexia, dyspraxia (dyslexia of the body), ADHD, a fatal heart condition, and then Lyme’s Disease, I discovered something was still missing. My mind was finally working, but my life wasn’t. I wasn’t happy. My relationships with women were better than many, but they weren’t great. I had done a lot of work on many aspects of myself. I studied with leading therapists and innovators then went on to teach with them. I had worked with over a thousand clients and students. I’d started and run successful businesses. Still, I felt flat.
When I opened my eyes and got honest, I realized I had avoided the whole issue of being a man. Looking back, I think my hope was that I could do all the other work I was doing… and “being a man” would just happen. Well, it didn’t.
So I took a deep breath and called an old friend in Washington, DC. I asked him about “that men’s organization” he was involved with. Not having a clue what I was getting into (which had me in panic with my controling tendencies), I signed up for a weekend with just men.
Honestly, I was less interested in their training and more interested in their groups. I knew I could handle a training. Hell, I’d led my own. What scared me was being real, on a regular basis, with the same group of men. It didn’t take long to learn I was not the only scared man there. Then my fear transformed into excitement.
After my first men’s group in 1996, I was hooked. These groups taught men what we never got to learn. I can now say I’m a man. Something I couldn’t have said before I began my journey with men’s groups.
My TEDx talk will give you an overview why as men we struggle emotionally and what we can do about it. When you read my book, Grow Up, and these posts, you will quickly realize I am a huge advocate for free men’s groups. I created the nonprofit Men Corps as a way to help men start their own groups. The documentary film About Men dives deep into our work with men’s groups. Yet it’s our company EVRYMAN, that is my biggest passion. Through EVRYMAN, I get to help more men than I ever could with all my other endeavors.
For men who want more, we created Emotional Leadership Coaching. I also co-lead weekend trainings for couples using the work of Susan Johnston, Ph.D. which fits beautiful with our work at EVRYMAN. Much of my time is spent training other professionals in what we do. We regularly train therapists and coaches how to help men.
Realizing the growing need for support in creating men’s groups and guidance around developing skills never taught, I joined up with my partners to create EVRYMAN. The most powerful and least expensive way to create a successful life and brotherhood is to have a thriving group. As Evryman grows, so does our offerings: group leadership guidance and mentoring, retreats, expeditions, coaching, and regular membership training. In all my years assisting men, I never saw anyone offer what Evryman is offering, check us out. We would enjoy having you be part of EVRYMAN.
As a note, I am not a therapist. With my training in somatic psychotherapy I am a member of the United States Association for Body Psychotherapy. For years I’ve trained coaches, therapists, and psychiatrists in our work. Both men and women discover how to best support men in the change using Emotional Physiology.
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Owen,
Ron Morgan here from Sonoma I-Group, many years ago in CA. I just got connected with your website, and am so thrilled to read how your journey has been thus far. I have continued to embark on my own, it has lead to some amazing growth, opportunities, challenges and ultimately treasure. I just located to Memphis, Tennessee earlier this week to begin working for Smith & Nephew (med device company), being their Director HR Services here for the company. They have me in temp housing as they relocate me East over the next months. I am going out to look at a wonderful house on 4 acres, a pond, pool and lots of privacy in a few minutes!
The Sonoma I-Group is still going strong, until this week they still had myself, Bill Elbring, Chris Stately and Ed Morler among the orginal that started it over 14 years ago. We still meet weekly and have had a lot of growth and splitting of the group, as well as continuity and love.
Hope that you continue to find your path a rightious one, your gifts to men and humanity are needed and welcomed. Will love to share more about my journey when you have some time…. :-)
AHO!
Ron Morgan
650-201-0855
Ron,
Thank you for your generous comment. I would love to hear more about you and our old group. Right now I am in Portland, OR at a conference. When you are settle give me a call.
Owen
Owen, do you have anything going in Sacramento? Dalia said I should check out your expertise.