Bringing your emotions into your actions
A man is respected when he takes action. Just look at the popularity of action movies where you have a hero perform impossible tasks in the face of grave danger. We admire men who don’t let fear stop them.
Typically it means the man suppresses his emotions, particularly his fear, so he can perform. That model expanded into a model of how a man should live his entire life. He should just show up, get the job done no matter what the cost, and not feel or express his emotions.
The emerging model tells us that we have emotions. They are always present. And taking action and feeling emotions is not an either/or. In fact, when a man feels his fear as he moves forward, he releases the binds the fear had on him. He also doesn’t put more stress or emotional repression back in his body.
Literally, physically, allowing yourself shake as you act only makes you braver. Not only are you acting in a courageous manner, you are allowing your body and mind to feel and express what is occurring. That act may take more courage than the outward action demands.
Allowing your fear to be present as you move forward in the moment or over time will inherently invite others to support you. They will feel your congruency – you’re not doing one thing but saying another. They will feel your openness, vulnerability and courage. They will be inspired by you, as well as want to help you.
Women will be attracted to your brave act. They will be drawn to you by your openness. You are embodying every woman’s dream: a brave and open man. You are showing them they are safe and that you would protect them.
Your action will generate respect from men. Your courage to feel as you act will have them trust you because they will feel the integrity between what you are doing and what is really occurring for you. Everyone on some level knows when you are scared. Denying that fear tells others that there’s a part of your experience you are shutting off.
To the extent you shut off a part of what is happening, others will not trust you. If only unconsciously they will wonder how that repressed part will behave. Much like walking by a frightened dog, he may be barking but you wonder if his fear will cause him to attack.