From reading my posts you know one of the ways I encourage men to be who they always wanted to be and get what they want is to join a men’s group. Over the years I have literally seen these groups save men’s lives, transform their relationships and give men what they need to create [...]
How do you know if you need a men’s group? Answer this question: Who do you call when you’re in trouble? This question comes from my friend Ken Solin, who has been leading men’s groups in the Marin County area for 20 years. Ken, a former business owner and motorcycle rider, is no touchy-feely “New [...]
There is the coward’s way, coming from denial and anger, or there is the courageous way of facing your pain and truth. Either way will be painful. The second way, dealing with it directly will be tougher in the short run. The first way of denial and projection may get you out of the marriage, [...]
Men don’t listen. It’s a horrible stereotype—but as far as most women are concerned, it’s an irrefutable fact. Why don’t we just listen? Why do we always try to fix everything? Because, as men, we are instinctually wired and acculturated to provide for and protect our partners through helping, fixing and directing. When a man’s [...]
Are you married? Well, according to a new study you should be; “Men tend to behave better when they’re married – both because marriage likely helps improve their behavior, and nicer men are more likely to be married in the first place…” With this, and the fact that married men live longer, reason would tell [...]
“Women respond instinctively to strength. When a man stands up to a woman’s nonsense, she knows he can protect her from her worst enemy: herself.” From Alison Armstrong – September 15, 2010, interview. Image by George Eastman House via Flickr Men, did you get that? And this is from a woman—a woman who has created [...]
When was the last time you touched someone? When was the last time you were touched? We are wired to need touch. A baby’s growth is limited without it. Your performance is limited without it. Recently one of my Rolfing clients told me about her tough divorce. A very accomplished woman who could hold her [...]
I learned a long time ago that touch was a powerful communicator. When someone touches you they go beyond your conscious mind, they are touching your unconscious. They are contacting your emotional body. An article in the New York Times describes the recent research on touch. The evidence that such messages can lead to clear, [...]
