“Just do it.” “Take no prisoners.” There are many different leadership styles; these are just two examples. Two pretty hard-core examples. They all produce results in the short term. The question is: how do they work in the long run? We’ve all had bosses who led using one of these ancient tenets of leadership. Did [...]
This post is the second in a series of three. The first is here. Let her have power over you As the hunter, you have power. Yet as prey, she is in control. Unlike in the wild, she gets to decide when she will allow you to capture her. The person who has the power [...]
In the previous post we discussed how your relationship is its own being, the “third body.” How to enrich the third body First, sit down with your partner and have a conversation about your third body. It is often easier to speak about your relationship as a “third body” rather than “the relationship,” As a [...]
Let’s get honest: who do you go to for emotional support? If you go to anyone at all, there’s a good chance it’s your partner, assuming you have one. Your partner should be your best supporter… but should she be your only one? How often do your reveal personal issues to others, or ask for [...]
This is a continuation of part one. How do you get over the biology and into the heart of things? Next time you’re in a heated conversation with your mate, and your head gets in the middle of the chaos, and you feel like you’re trying to pull apart fighting kids, remember this: you and [...]
If you read my other posts you know that I am a huge fan of the body and its direct connection to the unconscious, the real driver of the bus. I was initiated into somatic psychology and therapies by a founder, Ron Kurtz back in the late 70’s. I was honored to be one of [...]
This TED video nails what is happening to boys and men. Psychologist Philip Zimbardo asks, “Why are boys struggling?” His stats (lower graduation rates, greater worries about intimacy and relationships) are impressive. Before we can change this we need to know the problem exist. There is no better description of this problem then Philip Zimbardo’s [...]
Your conscious and unconscious minds may act like adversaries, attempting to pull you in two directions. They are meant to work together to enrich your life. Proving that you are more than your thoughts David Brooks, past senior editor at The Weekly Standard, contributing editor at Newsweek and the Atlantic Monthly, now New York Times [...]
