“Women dwell on their disappointments. …Whereas men dwell on their failures.” From Leigh Pretnar Cousins, MS in the PsychCentral post Ms. Cousins’ contention is that women don’t get the fact that, “Men are constantly in competition with each other, embroiled in a life-long contest that no man can ever ‘win’ in any permanent way.” I [...]
There is the coward’s way, coming from denial and anger, or there is the courageous way of facing your pain and truth. Either way will be painful. The second way, dealing with it directly will be tougher in the short run. The first way of denial and projection may get you out of the marriage, [...]
So, which gets you more, comfort or risk? I say risk. Comfort is what we seek, but it’s risk that delivers it. Think about it, what brought you the biggest change and pleasure in your life? Was it sitting on your ass? Or was it when life kicked you in the ass? Risk adverse As [...]
The upside and downside of loss When is the last time you experienced loss? Was it a relationship? I know over the decades I felt several times the grief from a relationship ending. It is tough. You feel like you will never be better. You might not be sure you want to be better. In [...]
Are you in pain right now? If so, is it the obvious pain of a backache or is it the subtle, constant pain of worry? Have you grown to accept this pain? What will it take to get you off your ass to eliminate that pain? You aren’t stupid, so why is the pain still [...]
