The Question

What is it to be a man?

As men we have grown up with others defining what it is to be a man. Much of our definition was the default cultural expectations. As we search for our own definitions, I want to hear from you what you believe it is to be a man today.

I also want women to share their thoughts and feelings. Women have an innate sense for bs. You may be our ultimate feedback, but it is our relations with ourselves and other men that heal us.

Please leave your comments.

The Question

2 Responses

  1. I just came from lunch where a woman friend of mine and I had a conversation about how challenging it can be to tell the truth to members of the opposite sex (if that’s our orientation). I think it’s as challenging to tell the truth to ourselves – what we want, what makes us vulnerable, what kind of support/love we seek. The truth shall set us free. Self Acceptance is one of the keys (it doesn’t matter what we DO until we accept ourself; once we accept ourself, it doesn’t matter what we DO). I once gave a presentation entitled “Being Who You Are in a World that (Seems to) Want(s) You to Be Somebody Else.” The world around us is a reflection of our own consciousness. Once we accept ourself, the world around us will be more supportive.

    Charly Heavenrich August 10, 2010 at 2:48 pm #
  2. Charly,

    I couldn’t agree more. We strive to have others accept us while it is really self-acceptance we need.

    The most challenging experience I have had was telling the truth when it could be detrimental to me. Yet those were the experiences that created the most growth for me.

    As men I believe it is more important to speak the truth – without it men and women don’t trust us.

    livingfull August 10, 2010 at 8:08 pm #

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