Want to attract women? Or have a more fulfilling relationship with your partner? Women want a mature man who knows who he is. We all know that – so how do we achieve it? If you‘re like me, you did what your buddies told you to do. We all know how well that worked.
Here’s an idea: instead of asking men what women want, ask women.
That’s step 1. Step 2 is figuring out how to deliver what they want. But for that, you really can’t ask women. They aren’t men; they don’t know how a man needs to go about giving them what they want.
The secret – maturity
A mature man is a chick magnet for mature women—the kind of women who honor men. Work on growing up, and it will certainly shift how women are attracted to you, and how they relate to you.
Working on your personal growth is not only admirable, it is necessary today. The edge in today’s market is maturity (more on that in other posts). Even if you don’t really know what that means, you can use attracting women as the training field for maturing.
You can combine the two: develop your communication skills with women, while working on your personal development to grow into the man you want to be. For me, relating to women was the most challenging and rewarding test of my maturity. As a shy boy with Asperger’s Syndrome, dyslexia, and a speech impediment, speaking to a girl was a herculean task. Not only did I have to get the courage up, I had to rehearse what I was going to say so many times that by the time I actually talked to her, I sounded like a robot. You can imagine how well that worked.
When I gave up on doing it “right” and just focused on being myself, I started to see results. After some success, I went full bore at letting go and being myself with women. It began to work. I started attracting more and more women. I started to become more relaxed, happier and more successful.
Men teaching men to attract women
Over the last 30 years of working with men in situations similar to mine, I’ve seen them make progress faster than I did. There is a growing group of men who assist other men in becoming successful with women and their lives. If you want the short course on attracting women and personal development, I suggest you check these men out.
These guys know what they’re talking about. They’ve taken the mystery out of attracting women. They’ve distilled it down into a teachable science and art that goes beyond theory. You can learn how to apply their skills. I wish they’d been around when I needed them! Invest the time and money. You will be well rewarded.
AMP – Authentic Man Program
Decker and Bryan have created a series of seminars out of their San Francisco headquarters that teach men how to be real—first with themselves and then with women. A few men in our groups have taken their trainings, and their feedback is always excellent. They care and they know their stuff. The added bonus: they have very sharp women giving men powerful feedback. You learn it from men and test it with women. It doesn’t get better.
Jordan Harbinger and AJ Harbinger, along with the other men and women of Art of the Charm, teach men specific skills to attract women. They also go for more than the short-term gain of teaching techniques—they teach the qualities that transform a man to naturally attract women. Their podcast site has a ton of great information. Check it out.
Robbie Kramer’s blog contains a lot of valuable information that is immediately applicable. It also has a community forum for more support. He offers a free ebook on confidence, and like the others, he offers coaching, too.
Deida doesn’t teach attraction techniques as much as he teaches men what is behind being a man who women want. Deida teaches “The Way of a Superior Man” (also the title of his most popular book). The men from our groups who took Deida’s trainings came back very impressed.
Do you know of other similar programs? If you do, please tell us about your experience with them, and list them in the comments. Let’s support each other in getting what we want.
Take a risk
I know it’s hard to get off your ass enough to just read some of the posts and listen to the podcasts in the above sites, let alone get coached or take a training. I assure you, not only are you worth the investment, you will get a bigger return on that investment than you can imagine.
Going from one failure to another with women will change to one success after another once you start being yourself. It may sound trite, but it’s true. Before, you never had people teaching you these simple principles. Now you have them. Use them. Use me and this site to guide you in your journey to being your own Remarkable Man.
Women want us to be remarkable… are you willing to take the risk of failure for the possibility of a huge success? Let us know what you are risking to be remarkable.