Over the years, we’ve had many men join our groups at the suggestion of their therapist. That’s right: a therapist suggested their patient check out a men’s group rather than enter therapy. That’s because more and more therapists are realizing men aren’t bad or broken. Being a man is not a pathological problem. Men don’t [...]

  What’s missing in your life? Is it the depth of friendship you had when you were younger? Is it true intimacy in your relationship? Are you missing purpose or passion in your life? As men we work hard to achieve our goals. Yet we will often feel there should be more to life. We [...]

  Will next year be like this year? Those New Year promises you make to yourself – where will they go? In the trash with the rest of the ones you’ve made? You want 2012 to be different, so how is that going to happen? Will it be you saying it will be different? Or [...]

How do you know if you need a men’s group? Answer this question: Who do you call when you’re in trouble? This question comes from my friend Ken Solin, who has been leading men’s groups in the Marin County area for 20 years. Ken, a former business owner and motorcycle rider, is no touchy-feely “New [...]

Alison Armstrong for years has taught women about men. She taught them to appreciate us for who we are and for not being “hairy women”. A few years ago I listened to her CD set about men she created for women. I was blown away by what he said. She had me in tears at [...]

What do you want to change? What keeps tripping you up? After 35 years of study, changing myself and teaching it to others, I have come to learn a few things about change – don’t be impressed. I had a lot to accept and change. First the obvious, change doesn’t stop. But you knew that. [...]

A friend of mine, Michael Taylor just launched his new site – Brothers Are You Listening. Michael, a coach for men is a very passionate and committed around helping all men be extraordinary. He writes: A new resource that is specifically designed to empower black men to reach their full potential. We are well aware [...]

Men don’t listen. It’s a horrible stereotype—but as far as most women are concerned, it’s an irrefutable fact. Why don’t we just listen? Why do we always try to fix everything? Because, as men, we are instinctually wired and acculturated to provide for and protect our partners through helping, fixing and directing.  When a man’s [...]